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Be Where You Are

As entrepreneurs, it's easy to want to be further along than we are. To want to be more successful, have more clients, make more money. And that desire is great. But it's really really important that we enjoy and appreciate where we are. In fact, that we want to be where we are, right now.

Because this is the only now that exists. And if today you want to be 3 steps ahead of where you are, guess where you'll want to be when you're 3 steps further than today? That's right, you'll want to be anot…

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When you let go of the "should", the "want to" may arise

I wrote about Getting Things Done last week. Since then, I've had a related experience - twice - that I need to share with you.

I've been having a side project to create an iOS app for calculating numerology with my friend and numerologist, Allberte. It started with my online numerology calculator, and it grew into talks about an app, and immediately my mind started thinking about what an app might do, and how to do it, and so on.

Yet, as the weeks went on and I did nothing about it, it was cl…

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Learning to live in a finite world

There's a part of me that longs for the day that I never have to worry about how much or what I eat, or how much and what type of exercise I do.

It's the same part of me that doesn't want to worry about money and what I spend them on and whether there's going to be enough. 

It's also the same part that doesn't want to have to worry about what I spend my time on.

Or what I choose to put in the limited space I have in my Manhattan apartment.

In short, there's a part of me that really doesn't w…

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Getting Things Done, in Two Variants

Getting things done is important. We work on the energy, we blechschmidt, we visualize, we do all of those things. But at the end of the day, we still need to get stuff done.

Here are two of my favorite hacks for getting the most important things done reliably and consistently.

The Spread-Out Variant

My life takes different forms at different times. A few months back, I had many projects going all at once. I was applying for my visa, I was overseeing different development projects, I was blog…

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Living out your dreams

It was about 11 years ago when I started watching The Daily Show. I'd lived in New York for a couple of years prior to that where I wasn't aware of it, and by this time I was back in Denmark, and I'd hired a US citizen as one of my employees, and he was the one who turned me on to it. I've probably watched pretty much every single episode since then.

For years it was a way for me to stay connected with a country I loved and wanted to live in, despite "temporarily" living overseas. It was a good…

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The Universe Is Just Trying to Do Its Job

I'm at Copenhagen Airport, waiting to board our plane back to New York. By the time we land it'll be 3.30am Copenhagen time, and we'll have to go through immigration. I dread the long lines already, but thankfully we now have a freshly minted visa in our passports. It feels great.

We had a little bit of a scare when we got to the airport and tried to check in with our dog. We did have a reservation, so that wasn't the problem. The problem was that the lady at the counter said we had to have a E…

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Finding the Sweet Spot of Effective Effort Without Slaving or Struggling

It’s been a long process. Depending on how you count, it’s been 3 years or 10. Today is the day that our visa application went through.

I’m stilling getting used to The New Me, the version of me where I say something will be, and it happens that way.
 
When I was Old Me, things rarely worked out. I’d work hard. In fact, I’d slave away at things. But most of the time, things didn’t work out. It didn’t mean I stopped trying or working hard, it just meant I stopped expecting things to work out.

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The Secret to Making Affirmations Work for You

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For years, I heard people talk about affirmations, but I hated them. I would try every once in a while, but they didn't really work for me.

The first time I tried them was around 2006 after I'd bought a Tony Robbins tape, and he suggested I repeat to myself "every day in every way I'm getting stronger and stronger". Not my typical thing, but I have noting to lose, so I tried it for a while. But that voice inside kept saying "bullshit", and eventually I stopped.

Later, though, I learned how to …

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Our Secret Ideals

As a kid I saw all the grownups talk very seriously and never show any emotion. They seemed to have their shit together. I'd always have emotions. I'd feel angry or hurt or wrong or something, and I'd feel wrong for having those feelings. I felt like I wasn't even close to having my shit together.

Somehow that ideal has been stuck in my unconscious all these years, and it wasn't until a couple of weeks ago that I realized it. I met a man, who really seemed to have his act together. He spoke in …

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Upper Limits

As I mentioned, I came across this placed called Little Vegas, which is basically a bunch of machines that will happily take your money in exchange for a few seconds fun. And I have all of these voices in my head saying they're dangerous evil places.

But then I realized, hey, what's so evil about them? They might not be my particular taste, but I've actually never given them a fair chance, and if my kids like them, what's the problem? Everything else around is equally expensive, so whether they…

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